Most of us know the struggles of dating and catching the eye of potential suitors – but one elegance coach has claimed she’s got the tips every woman needs to ensure men find them irresistible.
London-based Anna Bey, 34, a vlogger who prides herself on teaching ladies how to be classy, said women need to play hard to get and use their femininity in order to attract the perfect match.
In her latest YouTube clip, she added that a woman who is insecure, or doesn’t know her own self-worth, will lose their partner’s interest.
Most of us know the struggles of dating and catching the eye of potential suitors – but one elegance coach (pictured) has claimed she’s got the tips every woman needs to ensure men find them irresistible
Stop turning him off with insecurities
‘Guess what causes the most drama in a relationship? Well, apart from miscommunication of course – ladies that is insecurities,’ said Anna.
‘A man starts absolutely 100 per cent fantasising about leaving a relationship when a girlfriend causes drama by being worried that he’s going to leave her.
‘Insecurity in a woman is a big relationship killer so… start becoming aware of that and recognising and questioning your insecurities.’
‘The most important thing is that you become aware of them because surely that’s the only way to heal.’
London-based Anna Bey (pictured), 34, a vlogger who prides herself on teaching ladies how to be classy, said women who expect to be treated like goddesses will attract high-quality me
Play hard to get
The finishing school coach insisted: ‘Get a life. I don’t want you to only exist because of a man. I don’t want you to hang around the phone all day waiting for him to call. I don’t want you to obsess about him all day long, so please get a life.
‘You see, what happens is that the moment you get a life, the moment the man feels that he needs to earn your time and affection [they love it], as their minds are wired to thrive on challenges.
‘We shouldn’t be available to him all the time because then he will not value the moment when you are actually available and the time that you give to him.
‘What I am saying is that do not just sit on the couch all day long, watching the Kardashians and waiting for the guy to call. You are not going to be very interesting to him in the long run this way.
‘Because trust me he’s not interested in what happened at the Kardashians and ladies when the interest disappears that’s when he wants to leave.’
Allow him to be vulnerable
‘Now we all know that there’s this stereotype of the man who never shows emotions,’ said Anna. ‘However, this stereotype is actually not really healthy for our entire society. Women find it easier to express emotions than men, but this doesn’t mean that men don’t have any or should never show any emotions.
‘From my experience and what I’ve seen around is that those men who tend to attach the most to a women are the ones who feel that they can really be vulnerable with her.
‘Maybe it sounds a bit corny to some, but I really do think that if you create a space in your relationship that allows a man to really talk about his feelings and the things that burdens him, they tend to value this kind of relationship much higher.
‘If you are there by his side, not judging at all, you will have a man who will open up to you in a way that won’t make him want to leave you anytime soon – because he simply won’t have any people in his life with whom he can have these moments with.
‘And trust me all men need to express these emotions and have these moments.’
Know your self-worth and set boundaries
In her latest YouTube clip, Anna (pictured) added that a woman who is insecure, or doesn’t know her own self-worth, will lose their partner’s interest
Anna says: ‘We all know that men should be respecting us. But ladies, my question to you is, how do you actually get that respect? And I’m serious. What do you do in your everyday life to earn that respect?
‘Or let’s put it like this, why is the man still not waltzing around your feet treating you like a Queen? Let’s face it, that’s real life for many many women out there today.
‘Now let me give you some tough love. You do not know how to demand real respect… I’m talking about boundaries, setting boundaries. When you set boundaries, you communicate a message that tells the world how you expect to be treated.
‘We know that we deserve love and we deserve kindness and we really deserve to be treated like a goddess. So what happens? Well, when you send out that energy, guess what happens then? That’s the treatment you’re going to get. That’s how people, men, women included, are going to treat you.
‘Believe it or not, there is no faster way by raising your own value in people’s eyes than just by the simple word boundaries. And that’s exactly what makes a woman, a high value woman, and she’s not afraid of demanding respect and setting boundaries.’
Use the power of your femininity
The elegance coach said: ‘Nurture him, without being a doormat. There is this fear among some women, they think they need to be very cold and rigid with men.
‘But I think it’s important to find a kind of healthy balanced relationship, which is why I believe that it’s very important to some degree to nurture the man.
‘You can actually nurture a relationship and nurture a man while setting strict boundaries about what you tolerate, so this way a man is not going to take for granted the nurture that you give him.
‘You set boundaries, giving him the reward when he has earned it. But also showing him what he can get in order to keep him at his best behavior. You see the female nurture is truly worth billions to a man.
‘Us ladies, we are indeed sitting on a gold mine because it is so easy to persuade a man with your femininity, your love and your care. But again, not talking about being a doormat, this is a powerful tool that we’ll use with nurturing him.
‘This is how he gets also hooked on the woman by getting that affection, that love and care that he cannot just get anywhere.’