Woman says her boyfriend won’t introduce her to his friends because she’s fat

A woman has revealed her boyfriend of seven months doesn’t want to introduce her to his friends because they are unlikely to approve of their relationship due to her weight. 

The woman who is 6ft 3in tall and weighs 15st 1lb (96kg), believed to be from Australia, took to Reddit to explain the sadness she’s experiencing from seeing her boyfriend ‘uncomfortable’ about introducing her to his friends.  

She said they have a great relationship but her 21-year-old boyfriend is worried that his judgmental friends will make her choose between them and her. 

Responses to the thread were quick to advise her to end the relationship in favour of finding someone who will be proud to be seen with her. 

The 22-year-old woman said her boyfriend knew how she looked before they met because she had full length photos on her Tinder profile when they met seven months ago. 

‘My boyfriend does not want to introduce me to his friends because they hate fat people,’ she captioned her post. 

Explaining the situation, she said that she’s suffered with an eating disorder since the age of 15, but has had help from doctors. 

‘Years of binging, starving and throwing up has really messed up my system and I started to gain a lot of weight’ she said.   

‘He has never had issue with my weight. I’m 160cm tall and 96kg right now and about the same when we met. 

‘He always said he does not care about it and calls me beautiful every day. Our relationship is great but he is scared what his friends might think of me and him when they see me. He does not want to choose between his friends and me. 

‘His friends are bit judgmental about weight, even his own weight. What should i do? I love him so much. But the fact that this makes him uncomfortable makes me really sad.’

In a follow up post, the woman revealed her boyfriend’s friends would make cruel comments about his ex-girlfriend who was smaller than her.

She added that they are all single and it’s possible they want him to remain alone.  

Many responses to the thread reassured the woman that she deserves someone better and advised her to end the relationship.

One person wrote: ‘My friend, he IS choosing between his friends and you – and you are not the winner.

‘What he’s really telling you here is either that he’s not willing to stand up to his friends and tell them to f*** off with their opinions, or he actually holds their views too and doesn’t want to bring you around them because he’s embarrassed by your appearance.

‘Either way, you deserve to be with someone who is proud to introduce you to his friends.’ 

Another said: ‘You should break up. Honestly. I’m sure you should also speak to a nutritionist and your doctor about healthy eating at some point, but I’m also sure you know that.

‘In terms of him, you need to drop him. If he’s not comfortable enough to be proud to be with you in front of his friends then where can this go? He wasn’t catfished or surprised by your weight, he knew, so what was his plan?’ 

Others accused the boyfriend of lying about the reason he doesn’t want to introduce her to his friends, with one writing: ‘I can’t believe you actually fell for this lie lol. This dude is using his friends as scapegoats because you don’t know them, so you can’t check if what he says is true or not.

‘Listen, the truth is that your boyfriend does not want to introduce you to his friends. The reason? That’s something you need to find out yourself.’

Another said: ‘You both met on Tinder and he saw your full body pics, he didn’t think of his friends when he saw you as overweight. Your bf is lying. He has other reasons not to introduce you to his friends but fatness isn’t one of them. There could be ‘some’ a******* in his friends group, not every one of them.

‘Ask him to introduce you to his parents. If he says no, then, he doesn’t want to be seen with you. Maybe planning to dump, I don’t know. See someone else.’