Jools Oliver recalls her heartbreaking miscarriages in touching tribute to husband Jamie

Jools Oliver recalled her miscarriage heartache while paying tribute to husband Jamie to mark their 20th wedding anniversary on Thursday.

Taking to Instagram, the author, 45, posted a beautiful video from their 2000 wedding at All Saints Church in Rickling, Essex, where they were seen dancing to Dusty Springfield’s 1963 hit I Only Want to Be with You.

In a lengthy and impassioned caption, Jools, who has been with Jamie, also 45, for 27 years, lauded her ‘best friend’ while delighting in ‘creating five wonderful children’ while also lamenting ‘losing their five little stars in the sky’. 

Way back when: Jools Oliver recalled her miscarriage heartache while paying tribute to husband Jamie to mark their 20th wedding anniversary on Thursday 

Jools, who shares kids Poppy, 18, Daisy, 17, Petal, 11, Buddy, nine, and River, three, with Jamie, made her feelings for her husband clear in the touching post, where she not only reflected on the good times but also their losses. 

She also revealed that the couple were due to renew their wedding vowels but the coronavirus pandemic ground their plans to a halt.  

She wrote: ’20 years married Today !! 20 exciting, happy, fun wonderful years married to my best friend… we were due to renew our wedding vowels this summer but that can wait!…

’20 years married but together 27 years my first true love… Yes I drive you Bonkers and you probably deserve a medal etc…

Their brood: Jools and Jamie share kids Poppy, 18, Daisy, 17, Petal, 11, Buddy, nine, and River, three (pictured in August 2016, outside Portland Hospital after River's arrival)

Their brood: Jools and Jamie share kids Poppy, 18, Daisy, 17, Petal, 11, Buddy, nine, and River, three (pictured in August 2016, outside Portland Hospital after River’s arrival)

‘But being with you feels like home (and you know much I love to be at home)!!! I treasure the daily texts you send, you are romantic and constantly positive funny and a dedicated brilliant dad…

‘We have created 5 wonderful children and lost our 5 little stars in the sky. Thank you for loving me the way you do…

‘We did it, on to the next chapter x Was devastated to have lost out real wedding video in one of our house moves so this is cobbled together from home videos…

‘Truly the happiest day with the most wonderful memories. Still 20 years later my dance moves need updating. better sort that out for our next wedding xxx’.

The big day: Taking to Instagram, the author, 45, posted a beautiful video from their 2000 wedding at All Saints Church in Rickling, Essex, where they were seen dancing to Dusty Springfield's 1963 hit I Only Want to Be with You

The big day: Taking to Instagram, the author, 45, posted a beautiful video from their 2000 wedding at All Saints Church in Rickling, Essex, where they were seen dancing to Dusty Springfield’s 1963 hit I Only Want to Be with You

In October last year, Jools discussed her heartache in a poignant Instagram post to mark Baby Loss Awareness Week, while she also spoke of their loss in May the previous year to honour International Day of the Midwife.

She wrote: ‘A beautiful wave of light to mark the end of an Always emotional Baby Loss Awareness Week. Thinking of all the families who have lost a cherished beautiful baby, either through miscarriage, still birth or neonatal death… 

‘It is an absolute privilege to have come across some wonderful, strong brave women and families through Instagram who proudly tell their story of their own baby loss and through that support thousands of people going through the same thing… 

The whole clan! Jools often speaks candidly about parenthood (pictured in 2012)

The whole clan! Jools often speaks candidly about parenthood (pictured in 2012)

‘Be it through a simple quote, their beautiful eloquent writing and frankly just their plain raw honesty, has certainly helped myself and many others just so wonderful xxx our light shines bright for little Archie as always and our two little stars.’ 

Speaking to Daily Mail, Jools candidly said: ‘I had a miscarriage at three months, which makes you so worried once you are pregnant again – it makes it impossible to enjoy the early stages of pregnancy.’ 

In April, Jools revealed she would like to add a sixth child to their brood by the time she turns 47 in November next year. 

She said on new fitness podcast The Red Room: ‘I want to keep going until I can’t. I will probably think about stopping wanting another baby when I am about 47…

Their love: Jamie and Jools are pictured outside London's Queen Charlotte's and Chelsea Hospital in 2002 holding a newborn Poppy

Their love: Jamie and Jools are pictured outside London’s Queen Charlotte’s and Chelsea Hospital in 2002 holding a newborn Poppy

‘Jamie says, “You can’t put an age on it because you keep on talking about it” but just one more for River. I want to just stop bugging Jamie. But I feel like I don’t know. I think one more.’

On parenting her current brood, she said: ‘I am tired. I have got teenagers and a lot more to do,” she shared. “When I had Poppy I was 27 and I was focused on her…

‘I could stay at home and be a full-time mum and it was all very lovely. But as you get on, it changes. It’s a lot busier.’

Why do miscarriages happen? 

The majority of miscarriages cannot be prevented and the cause isn't usually identified

The majority of miscarriages cannot be prevented and the cause isn’t usually identified

A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy during the first 23 weeks.

The main sign of a miscarriage is vaginal bleeding, which may be followed by cramping and pain in your lower abdomen.

If you have vaginal bleeding, contact your GP or midwife. Most GPs can refer you to an early pregnancy unit at your local hospital straight away if necessary. You may be referred to a maternity ward if your pregnancy is at a later stage.

However, bear in mind that light vaginal bleeding is relatively common during the first trimester (first three months) of pregnancy and doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having a miscarriage.

There are probably many reasons why a miscarriage may happen, although the cause isn’t usually identified. The majority aren’t caused by anything the mother has done.

It’s thought most miscarriages are caused by abnormal chromosomes in the baby. Chromosomes are genetic ‘building blocks’ that guide the development of a baby. If a baby has too many or not enough chromosomes, it won’t develop properly.

For most women, a miscarriage is a one-off event and they go on to have a successful pregnancy in the future.

The majority of miscarriages can’t be prevented. If you have the symptoms of a miscarriage, you’ll usually be referred to a hospital for tests.

Source: NHS